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The rise of solo weddings in Japan

In a striking departure from tradition, single young women across the country are marrying themselves to celebrate personal milestones without a partner. This unconventional trend – which reflects shifting social norms and a pivot to independence – is reshaping the industry and has sparked a cultural debate.

During the last few years, an intriguing phenomenon has emerged in Japan, whereby young women are marrying themselves. These are the nation’s ‘perma-singles’ and they’re set to become the norm.

Tired of being told to partner-up and have children in a society built on the nuclear family, they’re shunning commitment in the millions and conventional relationships are on the way out.

These solo weddings – which see young women organise their own ceremonies and even don stunning white gowns typically associated with marital unions – have captured public attention and sparked a cultural debate about the departure from a tradition that’s deeply ingrained across the country.

Now a trend, its origins can be traced back to March 2019, when adult video star Mana Sakura made headlines for hosting her own wedding.

In a symbolic act, she placed a ring on her finger, pledging to prioritise her independent happiness and wellbeing.

This gesture of self-commitment resonated with many, inspiring others to follow suit and starting the movement that’s in full-force today.

A notable individual to be influenced by this uptick in sologamy is Hanaoka, who invested approximately 250,000 yen ($1.6K) into hosting her own ceremony in a Tokyo restaurant.

Celebrating her journey of self-discovery and personal growth in front of 30 guests, she stated that marrying herself didn’t preclude the possibility of more traditional nuptials in the future, highlighting how nuanced this trend really is.

This is because the mounting popularity of this coincides with a significant decline in traditional Japanese marriages.

According to the Guardian, rates have plummeted to their lowest levels in 90 years, which has contributed to both a boom in the solo economy and the prevalence of people who live alone.

As a result, the wedding industry has been forced to adapt, offering services that are tailored to perma-single brides. These include photo shoots with loved ones and even solo-honeymoon packages.

This adaptation has been observed by planners, who believe it represents changing attitudes towards marriage and personal fulfilment, with more Japanese women now financially independent and thus choosing not to conform to the long-established roles that accompany the nuclear family model.

This has ignited a lively discussion both on and offline, eliciting a range of reactions.

Those who deem the trend a powerful expression of self-love and liberation have praised women for putting themselves first.

They view it as a positive display of shifting social norms, through which conventional understandings of marriage and family are necessarily being re-evaluated.

Critics, however, argue that solo weddings have the potential to put more pressure on women to experience this ‘moment’ in their lives, even in the absence of a partner.

Their concern is that these ceremonies don’t truly go against the grain, rather they simply present a new take.

Yet despite the mixed response, there’s no denying that solo weddings have opened the floor to a conversation about the evolving definition of what’s worth celebrating in Japan.

As this continues to gain traction, the future of relationships and cultural traditions in an increasingly individualistic world will be called into question.

With Japan facing a dramatic modification of values (particularly among younger generations), solo weddings are an interesting insight into broader social transformations, challenging us to reconsider the meaning of commitment in the 21st century.

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